New mum? Feel cheated by lockdown?
DO YOU FEEL cheated out of special time with your baby thanks to lockdown? Right now you were expecting to be sitting in a circle somewhere cradling your newborn and chatting with other new mums who understand the surreal nature of motherhood.
You’d swap numbers, compare colour of baby poop, lack of sleep, aha moments, what to do with all the unsolicited advice. If you’re bold you might chat about co-sleeping or how you feel about pins and needs in your nips when you’re breastfeeding (not all the time, don’t worry).
Instead here you are AT HOME with your NEWBORN, probably ALONE or with a husband / wife / partner who is ‘trying’ to work from home. Hormones all over the shop, bugger all routine, what are you supposed to do? Who do you casually chat to? Who do you learn from? Who do you get to secretly be in awe of whilst stealthily learning how they do it? Who do you get to inspire (you will be inspiring someone whether you believe it or not). There’s not a face to face baby group in sight and truth be told, you’re apprehensive about taking your little one to a group anyway with all this COVID-19 flying about.
You feel sad for you, and you feel angry for your baby.
How is he or she supposed to even SEE another baby, learn vital socialising skills? How do you learn from others that your way is also right when you don’t see anyone? How do you cope with the isolation? The deafening and at times terrifying silence of being alone with a tiny person 100% dependent on you?
Sure there are moments where this lockdown thing rocks, you get to spend uninterrupted time with your baby and your great aunt ‘contrary mary’ cannot tell you off for not putting scratch mitts on your little one or for ‘spoiling them’ by cuddling them (sigh, you’re not). There’s no pressure to be anywhere, no-one knows what your post-partum tum looks like (and why should they? It’s no-one’s business)…but yet here you are, pretty p’d off with the whole thing.
You’ve been told you can text or call any health professional when you need to but that seems a bit formal because there’s nothing specifically wrong - you just need a chum on this epic journey into the unknown. You feel meh and you don’t want that to spiral downwards.
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Your mental and emotional wellbeing is important. It’s every bit as important as whether your baby has fed or needs a nappy change. It matters to you, to your family, to your baby, and it matters to me.
I run a postnatal hub. It’s membership only but costs peanuts for what you get. In the group I share baby massage and baby yoga and you can chat all stuff baby with the other mums, but the essence of the group is to support YOU. YOU as a new mum who is pouring love and energy into your new baby. For you I bring a whole lot of love, a welcoming space to share openly (or as you please), yoga to help your body heal and your mind calm, relaxation because you’re probably not getting a ton of sleep, facial yoga (puffy eyes anyone?!) and a whole lot more.
It’s ideal for new mums with pre-crawling babies but if your little one is already off at a great speed no problem, YOU can still benefit. Classes are pre-recorded and LIVE so dip in and out to suit - no pressure.
We’d love for you to JOIN US HERE.
